It seems like we’re heading that way because when I told him this he got relieved and said that he had brought it up with his psychologist that he had started to think about the pills. If we find out it doesn’t work then we find out, but my biggest fear would be to abandon him in the process, but I think that if we make that step then he will have friends to support him. No not family, they’re quite conservative sadly. Though we haven’t told them so maybe his parents would understand as well. I think the most frustrating part was that I had to find out so late, it would have been nice to know that he wasn’t a boy before I made him a boy in my mind.
As I read more and more about Transgender I realized that Transgender Is not about who you prefer to sleep with BUT who your genetic self identifies to
I can’t imagine what you’re going through struggling with this while you’re married, cause you must have been together for some time now. Did you find out recently or have you known for a long time? I would love to hear your story and help you if I can since you said it was kind of similar to mine.
At a follow this year his PSA values show his cancer is growing again
Hi Amanda- Your post seems to sum up a lot of my own emotions- especially when you mention how you felt your heart was grasping what your mind knew all along- that is how I’ve been trying to think since my boyfriend told me he is transgender. I am trying to see him as he is, rather than with a specific gender. My partner is one of the most caring people I know, so it is hard to picture myself without them. The scariest part for me, is that I don’t find myself as attracted to him when he dresses as a woman. I am so supportive in helping him find his happiness, but I’m scared it might cost me my own in the long run.
My spouse has advanced prostate cancer. He was diagnosed 6 months after our marriage 7 years ago. He told me this has triggered his desperate need to be himself. He was so desperate and in November started seeing a therapist. At first I really thought I could handle this. I have a lesbian daughter and virtually all my friends are “LGBT”. But I am definitely hetero. That being said I feel great sadness for my spouse who has lived his/her life in agony not being able to be her true self. She is desperate now to be herself before the cancer takes over. It is easy for me to accept the small changes, earrings under clothing things that keep her gender “secret”. One reason is because we live in the bible belt and both work. I have great fear that her job will be lost and potentially mine too. Also, having our jobs will make it easier for her to have her surgeries if her oncologist will approve. Personally I have good days and bad days. I will start seeing my own therapist this week. I can not sleep, my good days are ok but the bad days are horrific. I know my reactions affect her liberating herslf because she is trying to protect my feelings too. Some days I want to help not only her but also the T community and promote help and awareness to make a difference. The next I am sure I will move on. But the excitment I see from her and how wonderful she feels when she is more “her” than “him” is beautiful. However, my true self does not want him to transition. I am afraid for him/her, us and me. Today is one of my better days. Tomorrow who knows. JanC